Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Tell me your plans

The religous say God says... "Tell me your plans".  He or she may know tey not be realistic, but be ok with it.

Lots of people ask you that. I wanted to be the first woman senator who changed the law to make it so I could then become the first woman president (I was not born here). I was born in India and lived in an orphanage run by Mother Theresa, left in a basket on the steps of her orphanage. Easily I could have been eliminated.

Tell me your plans.

Age 16: Get a great education,  Meet a nice boy, have a family, and live happily ever after. 

Lots happened which is way different than that.
  • My first child almost died when she was an infant (1o weeks) due to a genetic disorder no one quite understood, but presented with her heart stopping.  First Christmas spent in the ICU, looking for answers.  She is doing amazing today.
  • My son has autism, I believe he probably had it in-utero and we didn’t do anything to make him have it. He is my hero.  He works 10x harder than my other kids to do the same chore or activity. No new age fantasy "cures" attempted- lots of after school S/L, OT, and ABA/Floortime. Didn't want to lose that precious window which tends to, per researach, close at 9ish.
  • My third child decided to stop moving at 32 weeks and a two month premature delivery was necessitated.  She emerged from the womb screaming.
  • My fourth had zero major catastrophes, but has felt the stress of all her siblings issues.
  • My fifth - an angel baby?
Tell me your plans.

I worked in the State House, I was the youngest ever elected member of the Mass Women’s Political Caucus. I believed in all things liberal and that help people, living in liberal Boston.

What you want and what you get can be very different and I wouldn’t change fate. You can’t. I love my kids. I don’t love autism. I think autism makes life harder for my son. Lived in denial a very short time. Domestic violence and divorce were never part of the plans either.

Tell me your plans.

To be happy and to have healthy kids and not be someone who buys into crazy “causes” or “cures". To help people. To make the world and our corner of it a tiny bit better.

Tell me your plans.

To be respected while helping my kids and others. To bring autism awareness and acceptance to the masses.

It’s pretty simple. Be a good person and hope to help someone along the way...  Autism has put up some roadblocks but none we haven't been able to walk around.  We live life fully, not making excuses, but creating paths for my son's success.

I get that chance now.   How blessed I am.